Q & A

What is a sexologist?

A sexologist deals with the therapeutic perspective on the sexual life of any human being. As a sexologist, you start with the sexual issues of life, which are processed in collaboration with a client, and then become able to make yourself and your surroundings aware. 

During a sexology education, you usually work with yourself for the first year, break down and make yourself aware of your own patterns and habits, so that you know yourself in the deepest layers. That way when you sit with a client, you do not do what you call a projection, which is about transferring some of your own shame, poor self-esteem, trauma and more. To his client. I have had clients before who have felt ashamed of their psychologist - and no matter what you as a psychologist / therapist / sexologist work with, it is about accommodating the whole person, understanding the whole person and helping the whole person with what they wishes. 

What can a sexologist help with?

A sexologist takes over issues that even many psychologists do not like to move into, of course with a duty of confidentiality. A sexologist can help break and change different patterns, most often based on the sexual, but which usually have roots in something much deeper such as. childhood trauma. A childhood trauma can i.a. be physical and mental abuse, having had shameful experiences, poor or lack of communication from his parents / guardians, lack of space for emotions, repressed emotions, bullied at school, eating disorders caused by other traumas, stressful parents, etc., and these factors can trigger a sexual physical or mental dysfunction / disconnection to oneself and one's body in one's adult life. 

Some traumas also trigger a specific sexual desire. 

A sexologist can help you understand yourself and your patterns on a deeper level than most. Sex is the foundation of our existence, and it is therefore an important source of a well-functioning life that one is conscious and has a good time in one's sex life. 

Sex and eroticism create positive effects both mentally and physically, and the sexologist also creates a natural understanding of why. A sexologist breaks down the shame around various sexual taboos, so that you as a human being do not have to hide from yourself or others. Whatever one has desires and tendencies, there is a reason which is quite ok and natural. 

A sexologist can also help and let a person understand sexual desires that are illegal and highly transgressive such as. abuse, pedophilia etc. Here, however, the duty of confidentiality stops because there can potentially be danger to other people, but as a sexologist you must still be able to help and guide these people. 

Why choose a sexologist?

One can stand somewhere in life where one wants to change bad habits and patterns. Or maybe you want to find a girlfriend, leave your girlfriend, be in a situation of infidelity, etc. The sexologist is able to give advice, guidance and guidance for the next steps you take together in the therapeutic sessions._cc781905-5cde -3194-bb3b-136bad5cf58d_

At a sexologist, one should not be nervous about bringing sexual issues to the fore. But you can also choose a sexologist if you can mirror or find something interesting about it. This is called a chemistry meeting. And it is far more important that the sexologist and client have a good chemistry, as the momentum and the desired changes here would be greatest. Since a sexologist works with other therapeutic aspects, one can also work with other issues such as: communication, setting boundaries for oneself and one's surroundings, poor self-esteem and self-confidence, lack of self-responsibility for what one wants to achieve, and feeling of knowing and standing strong in oneself. 

Is a sexologist a therapist?

Yes, the difference is most often in the education. A psychologist is educated from a university and both most therapists and sexologists are educated from private educations, which you pay for yourself. A therapist is an overarching title for working on psychological issues with a human being. Depending on which therapist you are, the title is therefore also called something else (psychotherapist, gestalt therapist, body therapist, etc.). In principle, it could be called a sex therapist instead of a sexologist, but the official title for my profession is sexologist.